Managing Conflict in Relationships​

Have you loved a person who is never wrong, never sorry and believes it is always someone else’s fault? Have you ever experienced an individual who’s non-accountable for their behavior and doesn’t learn despite the mayhem and pain they produce? Have you witnessed an individual who has no tolerance for the slightest criticism, even when given constructive advice? Read further because this person may well be suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Have you ever been in a relationship with an individual who demands your attention incessantly and becomes depressed, sulky and even full of rage if your attention goes elsewhere? This is one of the earliest warning signs of a narcissist. This is where women who know the difference turn their back and walk away; they know that any guy ringing them 10 times a day and demanding attention is not well. Unfortunately many women can mistake (or delude ourselves) that this high need for attention means we’re loved, missed and adored, or maybe we felt wrong in leaving or speaking up, as a result of our own deficient boundary function. Please be assured, this is not love; it’s the deadly calling card of the narcissist. (Melanie Tonia Evans, How to Understand and Implement Healthy Boundary Function.)

What is narcissism?

There are two types of narcissism. Healthy narcissism and unhealthy narcissism. Healthy narcissism is a state of ensuring one’s needs are met without affecting one’s environment and other people in adverse ways. Healthy narcissism is a constructive assertion of self, and mature utilization of decision making processes. Unhealthy narcissism is a state of trying to get one’s needs met in ways that are detrimental to one’s environment and other individuals. Unhealthy narcissism is a destructive assertion of self and immature utilization of decision making processes. Extreme narcissism is known as NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder).

Marinda Reynecke

Marinda Reynecke

Counselling Psychologist

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